Friends

Deciding who to tell and when is something only you can know about. Of course, it's going to be more difficult telling some people than others. Just use your common sense.

Are you worried about some of your 'straight' friends?

You don't want them to freak out and just walk out on you. But you'd like to be able to talk to them about the things your really feel. So when you tell them, make them think about it. How they take it is really their worry. They may need a bit of time to get used to the idea, but if they're any friends at all, they'll stick with you, and they will think about it.

If they stop being friends with you because of your sexuality or gender identity, it'll either be annoying or upsetting - but either way at least you'll know that they're wrong. Eventually they're going to have to get their heads sorted out. You're not the only lezzo, poofter or tranny they're going to meet.

Is it safe?

Sometimes, you're right. It would be safer to shut up about it. If you think someone could harass, bully or assault you for saying you're queer, why shouldn't you be careful? But there's no reason why we should have to run away or hide because of who we are.