How to go about it

How did you come out to people?

There's no one way to come out of the closet. Below are a couple of suggestions and some of the stories others have shared about how they told people. If you have told anyone, tell us about how you did it and what happened.

 

Drop hints

We start giving out hints - sounding out people's attitudes, asking them if they've got any queer friends, perhaps loaning them a good book that we've just read with a gay story line. Often then they will guess, and think about it, before we get to tell them.

 

Respond honestly

Another way of telling friends is when we're asked questions like "when are you going to get a girlfriend/boyfriend." If it's someone you feel you can trust you can say, "No, I don't." If they ask, "Why?" and you feel now is the moment, then say that it's because you're gay/lesbian or whatever term you identify with.

This is the place on Curious where people can share their personal stories and experiences about sexuality and gender identity. Have a read of these.

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