Get it On! - gay style

There are lots of ways gay men can have sex and really enjoy it. You will soon find out what you like and how you like to do it.

The first thing to do is to find out all about your own body. Get to know it and get to like it. Use a mirror for all those hard to see places. Don't get hung up about the size or shape of your penis, whether you think it's too big or too small. The size of your penis doesn't prove how much of a man you are in any way at all. The size of your penis has also got nothing to do with how much you enjoy sex or how much enjoyment you give your partner.

Masturbation

You have probably jerked off, had a wank (masturbated). This is really just making love with yourself and it's a great feeling, isn't it? Masturbation is also a great way of finding out how good sex can be. Don't worry about pulling yourself off. It's absolutely harmless. Almost everybody masturbates, especially guys - gay, straight, teenagers and adults. People get uptight about it because they don't like the idea of young people enjoying sex at all, let alone with each other.

There are lots of different ways for gay and bisexual men to make love together. Here are a few examples:

• kissing, cuddling, stroking and holding somebody else (no risk of getting an STI and no risk of HIV)
• jerking each other off, either together or in turns  (low risk of getting an STI and no risk of HIV) 
• sucking each other's penis, either at the same time or taking turns (definite risk of transmitting an STI but almost no risk of getting HIV).

Blowjobs

Mouths are soft and warm which makes having your penis sucked feel really good. If you are doing the sucking, hold the other person's penis with one hand and put it gently into your mouth. It feels nice and smooth. Run your tongue up and down his shaft towards the head, and try to keep your teeth out of the way... they're hard. Don't stress about swallowing semen, it just tastes salty. The thing to understand is that many STI's are passed on though oral sex, however HIV is NOT easily transmitted this way. The risk of getting an STI or HIV increases if you have cum in your mouth and have any cuts or sores in your mouth that it can get into.

Anal Sex

There is a lot of mystery and mis-information about anal sex, so we have dedicated a whole section to talk about it.

Relax

And try not to worry about when - or even if - you have an orgasm (cum)! After all, sex is still enjoyable even if you don't have an orgasm. You both have to feel relaxed to enjoy sex completely.