Anal sex

Is anal sex important?

Because such a big deal is made by heterosexuals about men having intercourse with women, a lot of people think that anal intercourse is the only way gay and bisexual men can have real sex with each other. This isn't true. Anal intercourse is just one way of having sex. There's nothing special about it apart from that it is the sexual activity that carries the most risk of HIV transmission.

Your anus can be sexually stimulating just like your penis. This is because it has a lot of sensitive nerve-endings around the outside and also inside it, just like the nerves in the head of your penis. When these nerve endings are being touched or stroked it can be a real turn on. You may find you like anal sex the best of all or you might not like it much at all. It's up to you. However, the most important thing to remember is that you must use a condom and lube to protect yourself from HIV and reduce the likelihood of getting other STIs.

There are some men who only enjoy being the "top" (doing the fucking), and some men who only enjoy being the bottom (getting fucked). But most like it both ways. It's good taking turns at being top and bottom.

The number one rule is to use a condom and plenty of water or silicone based lube for your's and your partner's well-being.

Be happy with your ass

You have probably been told as you have grown up that your ass is a dirty place and shouldn't be touched. This is silly. People should be happy with all parts of their bodies, and if they aren't, it might mean they aren't happy with themselves generally.

It is true that you get rid of waste out of your anus, but that's not the only thing that it's good for. You piss out your penis, but you can do more things with your cock than that. Your anus is only dirty when it hasn't been cleaned - just like any other part of your body. Also, by using condoms and lube there is protection from all sorts of bacteria as well as HIV and STI's that may be residing deep inside.

 

Fingers

There are safer ways to enjoy your's or your partner's ass than with a penis. You can use fingers, either your own or someone else's. Try using your fingers to begin with and you will soon see what we mean. Be a bit careful the first few times and never put anything else up your anus, as this can be dangerous. Use water or silicone based lube to make finger play easier. After fingering someone, you need to wash your hands before fingering your own or someone elses ass, alternatively a fresh pair of latex gloves can be used.

There is plenty of information about gay sex on the internet. But really all you both need to do is to relax, use condoms and lube each time, take things gently at first, and enjoy the excitement of being close to the person you are having sex with.

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