In a rough patch?

When we are in troubled relationships we say or think things like...

- they always criticise me
- why am I always to blame?
- why is this relationship so much hard work?
- can we really fix it?
- they are so mean to me, they never let me...
- I’m not stupid
- don’t say that sort of thing to me
- I hate the silence
- I dread what comes next.

Arguments can and do happen in the best of relationships.

Try these communication tips for improving your relationship

1. Stay calm and talk and listen to each other
2. Use statements like, “I feel angry (or other emotion) when (insert action) happens.”
3. Show that you are actively listening by encouraging the other person to continue talking by saying, “yes” “And then”, but not interrupting!
4. Try not to use the phrase “You always...” or “You never...” or “whatever”
5. Reflect what is being said to check you understand what was said
6. Be clear about any expectations, desires and boundaries you might have
7. Personal space and time out is ok!
8. Show respect and try not be dismissive.