Get it on - lesbian style

The first thing to say about sex between women is that there aren't any rules and we don't want any.

There are lots of ways you can make love to a woman and we will mention just a few. The first woman you should start having sex with is yourself. That might sound strange but you have to feel happy about yourself and about your own body before you can feel good with someone else.

Masturbation

One of the ways you can get to know your own body is by masturbating. Masturbation is simply you making love to yourself because it feels good. By itself it's going to make you feel good and it will probably give you ideas about what other women might like. Some of us like being kissed all over, some of us don't. Some of us like our breasts touched, kissed, licked; some of us don't. Like we've said, there aren't any rules.

There are many straight people who think that the only real sex is when a penis is inside a vagina. But this isn't true, even for heterosexuals. We know that the clitoris is one of the most sexually sensitive and responsive parts of our bodies.

Having sex with a woman involves exploring. Explore your own body, touch it, look at it, use a mirror to explore the parts you can't see easily. Get to know yourself and explore the woman you're with sexually, emotionally, totally.

But you still want us to tell you how to do it, right?

Well, here are a few ideas, but they aren't all there is. The key is to use your imagination, and just keep doing what feels good.

Fingers

Using you fingers, try caressing the labia, running them around the whole area, inside the vagina, out again and up to the clitoris until she is sexually excited or reaches orgasm. You can do this to each other at the same time or take turns.

Tongue

You could trace the edges of her labia, kiss and push at her clitoris with your tongue, and you can both do this at the same time too.

Grind

Another way of making love is to just lie together, one on top of the other and use the friction of one body on another.

Something to remember about orgasms

Yes orgasms are good and make you feel great but sometimes you can feel just as good without an orgasm. You don't have to have an orgasm to "prove" that you feel great about the other person and you don't have to feel guilty if she doesn't have an orgasm.

Communication

You're not going to be the world's greatest lover at your first attempt. So what? Practice does help. You and the woman you're with will work out what feels good for each other. That means a lot of honest talking between the two of you about what you like and what you don't, in all parts of your feelings for each other, not just the sexual ones.